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Thursday, May 31, 2007

Ennegram Personality Test

Do you think it's true that we create our own images and perceptions of ourselves in our heads, when in fact, we may be perceived as the very opposite to others? I found this over at TDJ's site. According to Ennegram (a person), there are nine personality types and the way we see ourselves is not necessarily the way others see us. I'm glad I found this site. I'm not saying it's golden, but lately, I've been looking inward to find the flaws and work on improving them. Unfortunately, I think some of the personal flaws we have are just innate in us and won't ever go away. But I do believe there's always room for improvement. I was labeled a Type 5, The Romantic, followed by Type 5, The Thinker. I highlighted the ones in red that I think are pretty true. I don't know about this. I had a lot of N/A answers to questions I couldn't decide on.

The Romantic (the Four)
Romantics have sensitive feelings and are warm and perceptive.
How to Get Along with Me
• Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.
• Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself.
• Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.
Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.
• Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting! (Hint: I know I'm sensitive already! lol)

What I Like About Being a Four
my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level
• my ability to establish warm connections with people
• admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life
my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor
• being unique and being seen as unique by others
• having aesthetic sensibilities
being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me

What's Hard About Being a Four
• experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair
• feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don't deserve to be loved
feeling guilty when I disappoint people
feeling hurt or attacked when someone misundertands me
expecting too much from myself and life
• fearing being abandoned
obsessing over resentments
longing for what I don't have

Fours as Children Often
have active imaginations: play creatively alone or organize playmates in original games
are very sensitive
• feel that they don't fit in
• believe they are missing something that other people have
attach themselves to idealized teachers, heroes, artists, etc.
• become antiauthoritarian or rebellious when criticized or not understood
• feel lonely or abandoned (perhaps as a result of a death or their parents' divorce)

Fours as Parents
• help their children become who they really are
• support their children's creativity and originality
• are good at helping their children get in touch with their feelings
• are sometimes overly critical or overly protective
• are usually very good with children if not too self-absorbed

My comments: Okay, this may sound typical, but there are a few things that I just don't agree with. Reading it, it sounds like a person who fits all of these descriptions needs to go lay on the couch (Dr. Phil's couch!-no offense to other 4's, I'm in it, too). I'll have to ask someone else who really knows me.

The Observer (the Five)
Observers have a need for knowledge and are introverted, curious, analytical, and insightful.

How to Get Along with Me
Be independent, not clingy.
• Speak in a straightforward and brief manner.
I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts.
Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that I am feeling uncomfortable.
• Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your sincerity.
If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because it was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place.
don't come on like a bulldozer.
• Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud music, overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.

What I Like About Being a Five
• standing back and viewing life objectively
coming to a thorough understanding; perceiving causes and effects
my sense of integrity: doing what I think is right and not being influenced by social pressure
not being caught up in material possessions and status
• being calm in a crisis

What's Hard About Being a Five
• being slow to put my knowledge and insights out in the world
feeling bad when I act defensive or like a know-it-all
being pressured to be with people when I don't want to be
watching others with better social skills, but less intelligence or technical skill, do better professionally (doesn't that sound like being a hater?)

Fives as Children Often
spend a lot of time alone reading, making collections, and so on
have a few special friends rather than many
are very bright and curious and do well in school
• have independent minds and often question their parents and teachers
• watch events from a detached point of view, gathering information
assume a poker face in order not to look afraid
are sensitive; avoid interpersonal conflict
• feel intruded upon and controlled and/or ignored and neglected

Fives as Parents
• are often kind, perceptive, and devoted
• are sometimes authoritarian and demanding
• may expect more intellectual achievement than is developmentally appropriate
• may be intolerant of their children expressing strong emotions

I think I'm a mix. Find out your personality here.


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