Quarterlife Mocha Girl

Thursday, March 12, 2009

The Menstrual Meter

Today the Menstrual Meter is at a high rate. I'm irritable. Like totally. These days I feel like I'm looking for something to bitch about. That's not good and very out of character for me. Let's start with the workplace, shall we? Everything's going smoothly except some people always want to buck the system, you know? There's a certain way of doing things, so just do it that way. Moving on....

This weekend I was off the charts with the attitude. The cause of my frustration: PMS and men (see a pattern, here?). I called my guy BFF (that's so funny to me!) to vent and you know what he said? "You should go out." That probably made me even madder than what I was. Sometimes this advice can be useful, but I had already been out. On top of that the BFF gives me the same three pieces of advice: (1) You should wild out and get some action, (2) You gotta keep it playa, mane and (3) You gotta shake back--it'll be alright. I established on last night that 35 percent of the time, his advice is irrelevant to my situation and it sucks. He agrees, "True...I never said it would work, but it always works for me." Womp womp!

"You make bad choices in men. You don't know how to pick em."
-Poetic Justice

I'm still getting these cookie-cutter texts from Mr. DC. Why? Does that mean he really wants to talk to me or he really wants to text me? LMAO. I just knew after last week, I wouldn't hear (read)anything from him again. I was clearly wrong. You (as in the reader) know how I feel about text messaging. I thought about calling him and saying, "Hey, this is why I don't respond to you anymore. (Begin rant)." I could atleast do that because men aren't mind-readers, right? He doesn't know I don't do the TMs. I really did think about it and decided against it because even though he doesn't know how I feel about that, he could atleast pick up the phone to speak to me. Hell, we're over 1,000 miles away from each other, not in the same city.

Actually, it doesn't matter either way. I can't teach grown ass men what to do and what not to do. That's what you have your Mama for.

I got a text from Mr. Blue Collar (he actually has phone conversations, so it's a balance). He's very sweet, but I was once again igged by the fact that he's on this, "stop by and holler at you" thing. Not hot. Who am I, your next door neighbor? On two occasions I have mentioned meeting somewhere for drinks or something light. Something always comes up. Get the ___ out of here. I really don't want to find something to complain about, but this would be it. I have GOT to do better. This makes me want to go on hiatus and I was just on one. Hell, I'm always on a hiatus.

But then again, it could be the Menstrual Meter talking.


  • At March 12, 2009 at 12:41:00 PM PDT, Blogger kimkim said…

    Ugh, your guy bff would've gotten hit with a purse, lol. Why do people always equate going out with getting over stuff? That doesn't help! Or they say "in due time..." WTH? I don't want to hear that, lol. I need REAL advice sometimes.

    I don't think it's just PMS. I think you have standards and it gets annoying when you come across people (men) who aren't up them. You don't want to write them all the way off but it get's frustrating when they keep doing weird things. I don't have a problem with texting (bc some people are NOT good over the phone) but if we never hang out F2F then it's a problem.

    And I know what you mean about the stop by guys. They like you so much and want to get to know you but usually it's only at your place. That's a negative. If you can't meet me out in public (which makes me think you have something to hide) you cannot come over and sit on my damn couch....

  • At March 12, 2009 at 12:56:00 PM PDT, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    My thoughts exactly KimKim...I don't think you are being hard on them (guys), this makes them step up and decide what they are actually ready for. The problem is too many guys run into females who take any and everything, so when they find a women who refusing to settle for the usual BS they run like piss poo lil boys or stick around doing the same crap thinking she will eventually break in.

  • At March 12, 2009 at 3:20:00 PM PDT, Blogger Charles said…

    Yeah...make sure you tell ol' boy how you feel, cause we definitely aren't mind readers, and we're gonna keep doing it until you let us know that it bothers you.

    And other dude who says he'll stop by and holla? Maybe he's uncomfortable in a public setting...not making excuses for him, just saying...playing devils advocate...

  • At March 13, 2009 at 9:08:00 AM PDT, Blogger kimkim said…

    Charles there is no such thing and you know it, lol. I bet he meets his boys out all of the time! She didn't say the hottest spot in the city, she said drinks or something light. Hello:
    Coffee spot
    Smoothie Cafe
    A park bench
    Pool Hall

    It doesn't have to be anything major but it needs to require some effort. It's like no one wants to put an effort into anything anymore. Everyone want to jump straight to the comfort zone. I'm speaking from experience (mine and friends included) and every guy that I let "stop by and holla at me" (red, white, or blue collar) never really made an effort to properly date me if I let them stand on my porch before going to out at least once. Men use to have to climb mountains and cross rivers in order to even think about visiting a woman at her home. Now they think it's automatic....

  • At March 13, 2009 at 9:17:00 AM PDT, Blogger Southern_Lady said…

    I love it when guys comment on this stuff! Hey Charles! Kim took the words right out of my mouth. This guy deals with the public in his job and he already mentioned going out with one of his boys for drinks. HA! Plus, if he was too shy to go out in public then there are some other issues that he needs to handle before trying to "date" me. We clearly won't mesh. lol.

    Thanks for playing Devil's Advocate. As if I don't do that enough in my head. And I WILL tell these guys what's wrong immediately. It just bothers me that some don't know what right/wrong and acceptable/unacceptable.

  • At March 18, 2009 at 8:25:00 AM PDT, OpenID lyfesimplified said…

    wOW...at least you have options.. and Options can be fun sometime. LOL.

    Hang in there hun ..."this too shall pass" the menstrual that is..lol



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