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Thursday, March 27, 2008

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Wednesday, March 26, 2008

An Eye-Opener: 4,000th Dead

Please, read. My prayers go out to the families and loved ones of soldiers in the Iraq war, living or deceased.


It's Been Soooooooo Long!

Yeah, my posts are getting less frequent. It's been crazy lately. In a good way, that is. I have so many things to discuss, but I can't even get it out right now. I have class tonight and this Spring weather is making me so sleepy. All I want to do is get in the bed. I started my praise dance class at church last night and I moved things that were never moved before. We are really dancing. Not that slow, old woman stuff! I can't wait until the performance.

Today, my friends and I bought tickets to the Erykah Badu show here in May. She finally finally decided to grace us with her presence. Bout time! I'm still deciding on whether or not I'm going to the Jay/Mary concert in ATL in two weeks for my bday. I need to do something different and that would be it. I need to pray about it. All this money is coming from where?

I'm still trying to make waves with this writing thing. I got back on my pitching grind recently, so hopefully some things will come to pass. Check out my feature on Caroline Mason from the First 48 at www.ndigo.com. The real job is about to be so real in a minute. BUSY, BUSY, BUSY! I'm enjoying this week with not much to do because it's about to be nonstop.

The boy. I still like him. We still talk. That's it. The usual suspects are still trying to keep in contact for whatever reason. I would say beat it, but I think one of them just really needs someone to talk to. Why does it have to be me though? Damn that selfish phase I'm going through. It makes me so mean. I've come to the conclusion that I NEED to date. Nothing else to say about that. It speaks for itself.

In other news, God is so good. Like you didn't already know that! I say that for no reason other than to state an obvious fact. Happy belated Resurrection Sunday! Our service was awesome.
If you get bored at work, check out www.polyvore.com and make your own outfits. I love when magazines have fashion spreads with outfits laid on the pages. Gives me so many ideas. I need them. I'm looking a mess these days.

Anywho, that's it for now. I'll be back soon and very soon.

Friday, March 07, 2008

Stuff Educated Black People Like

Thursday, March 06, 2008

Love Triangle

Gotcha! No, I'm not in one. I don't do drama very well, but I do have something for you to think about.

Everyone has different kinds of relationship with different kinds of people. Some relationships are serious, some are based on love and some are based on pure lust. Where are you in the triangle. This was lifted from Cool Lloyd. Here goes:

The triangular theory of love is a theory of love developed by psychologist Robert Sternberg. The theory characterizes love on three different scales:

1. Intimacy – Which encompasses feelings of closeness, connectedness, and bondedness.

2. Passion – Which encompasses drives that lead to romance, physical attraction, and sexual consummation.

3. Commitment – Which encompasses, in the short term, the decision that one loves another, and in the long term, the commitment to maintain that love.

The "amount" of love one experiences depends on the absolute strength of these three components; the "kind" of love one experiences depends on their strengths relative to each other. Different stages and types of love can be explained as different combinations of these three elements; for example, the relative emphasis of each component changes over time as an adult romantic relationship develops. A relationship based on a single element is less likely to survive than one based on two or more.

* Nonlove is the absence of all three of Sternberg's components of love.

* Liking/friendship in this case is not used in a trivial sense. Sternberg says that this intimate liking characterizes true friendships, in which a person feels a bondedness, a warmth, and a closeness with another but not intense passion or long-term commitment.

* Infatuated love is often what is felt as "love at first sight". But without the intimacy and the commitment components of love, infatuated love may disappear suddenly.

* Empty love: Sometimes, a stronger love deteriorates into empty love, in which the commitment remains, but the intimacy and passion have died. In cultures in which arranged marriages are common, relationships often begin as empty love and develop into one of the other forms with the passing of time.

* Romantic love: Romantic lovers are bonded emotionally through intimacy and physically through passionate arousal.

* Companionate love: an intimate, non-passionate type of love that is stronger than friendship because of the element of long-term commitment. Sexual or physical desire is not an element of companionate love. This type of love is often found in marriages in which the passion has gone out of the relationship but a deep affection and commitment remain. The love ideally shared between family members is a form of companionate love, as is the love between close friends who have a platonic but strong friendship.

* Fatuous love can be exemplified by a whirlwind courtship and marriage in which a commitment is motivated largely by passion, without the stabilizing influence of intimacy.

* Consummate love is the complete form of love, representing an ideal relationship toward which people strive. Of the seven varieties of love, consummate love is theorized to be that love associated with the "perfect couple".

Sternberg cautions that maintaining a consummate love may be even harder than achieving it. He stresses the importance of translating the components of love into action. Thus, consummate love may not be permanent. If passion is lost over time, it may change into companionate love.

Things that make you go hmmmm......

Tuesday, March 04, 2008

That's What Happens When You Drop Out of Kindergarten...

blog readability test

Movie Reviews

According to the Blog Readability Test, even an elementary school student could get down with blog. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or an insult. Especially when YBF has a rating of junior high (yes, I checked). What's really going on here? I need to step my game up, I see! Journalism teaches that your writing should be on eighth-grade level to make sure readers fully understand the story. Maybe I should start using words like "loquacious," "persnickety" and "cantankerous." Yeah, that's it. That's the ticket! LOL

I think it's just fine the way that it is. What do you think?

Monday, March 03, 2008

Help Our Young Girls!:Bust-It Baby Casting Call

Granted his songs may be a little catchy (damn that T. Pain!), Plies can kick rocks. Women are falling out over his "sexy, thug appeal." Meanwhile, his songs, lyrics and appearance disgust me. I really don't want to see your underwear dude! He had a casting for his Bust-It Baby video and the women degraded themselves (as usual) for camera time. Young girls are actually wanting to be called a lil boy's "bust-it baby." Sweeties, it's not a compliment! It's a shame. I strongly suggest that if you work with young ladies in the community or church, or have any contact with them, be respectable role models for them. Hopefully, I won't see my or your 20-year-old sister/cousin/neighbor at a casting call.

Here's the link. Check out and discuss over in the Clutch Magazine Forum.


My Wish List

Since this is the still the Lenten season, my pastor has been doing a series of sermons on the importance of fasting. Five years later, after attending school in a predominately Catholic state, I finally get the point of fasting. I never ever saw the significance of people "giving up" something for Lent. My old pastor never talked about Lent---only Easter.

This season, I still didn't get around to figuring out what I could give up in order to find quiet time for God to speak to me. I know that I have so much going on, sometimes, I neglect God. I listen to praise and worship songs all day, say my morning prayer and even talk to Him when I go to bed, but I don't have a time set aside especially for Him. That needs to change. I have so many things I need to figure out, do and accomplish. I'm always thinking that I need to do x,y,z to live a fulfilled life, but it will never be complete if I don't make time for Him. I make time for everything else, right? I really, really want to hear God speak to me. Life can be a distraction sometimes.

So, I'm writing down my wish list of things I want to do, already knowing that that things can and will be done. Maybe I should post a list on my bulletin board at home. Yep, that's what I'll do. So here it is:

-Find a time daily to study the Bible and convene with God
-Go to a dance class
-Research homeownership programs
-Take my trip to NYC this summer (still want to go to Miami)
-Look into investing
-Work out twice a week
-Actually try to cook (foreal cooking, not heating in the oven! lol)
-Eat healthy on a consistent basis
-Rework my budget
-Pitch new mags and publications

What are some things you'd like to do?